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Time To Learn: < 1 minuteWe’re at the halfway point in our 10-Day Cool, Calm Communication Course If you’ve just joined us or you missed a few days, here are the topics with links to everything we’ve published so far and what to expect next: Day 1: This Is Why I’m Not Listening To YouDay 2: Disaster-Free CommunicationDay 3: How…

Time To Learn: < 1 minute“Yeah, good mate” Really? Cos, if you told me how you really feel, some pretty incredible things would happen. When you ‘label’ your emotions, the activity in your amygdala will diminish while the activity in your prefrontal cortex will increase. AKA: the panic part of your brain goes quiet, and the thinking part comes alive. AKA: you quickly feel…

Time To Learn: < 1 minuteHere’s how stress happens … Someone says something or does something that triggers a threat response from you. This triggers the amygdala inside your brain. Your amygdala causes the release of cortisol and adrenaline. Now your body is full of it. In the presence of these stress chemicals, your prefrontal cortex, which usually does your…

Time To Learn: < 1 minute“He drives me crazy!” This could actually be true. There’s a concept called physiological synchrony that describes how people with stressed partners have higher cortisol levels. Couples’ heart rates, skin conductance, and cortisol levels converge during emotional interactions. When one partner’s nervous system activates, the other follows automatically. Also, hostile relationships (critical, sarcastic, unpleasant) lead to slower…

Time To Learn: 3 minutes“You cannot be serious!” My face was red, my chest was tight. I was literally yelling at my computer screen. Here in Australia, we have just witnessed our government do something so dumb and so damaging that it feels like a combination of disrespect, neglect, and a little bit of corruption. Maybe a lot ……

Time To Learn: < 1 minuteHow they behave is up to you. “What?” Yeah. Because they’re copying you. In 21 milliseconds, our brains decide how we behave, and we base that on the other person’s behavior, starting with their facial expression. According to psychologist Elaine Hatfield. Faster than you can consciously think, your brain has already made up its mind about how you’ll behave…

Time To Learn: 2 minutesI really should have taken a breath. That would have stopped me. It’s all I needed to do. Instead, I’ve been dealing with the consequences of that horrible conversation for the last 12 months. Seriously. This is what happened … I called my Dad because I had a point to make. I launched at him…

Time To Learn: < 1 minuteOf course you have. I have. A lot. I’m working on it. But, despite what some may have told you (and me), this is not a problem with your character. It is literally because of the way that our brain is designed. This is actually what happens just before we start screaming at strangers through the car windscreen. To…