Time To Learn: 2 minutesI don’t even know where to start. Literally minutes into the research on this topic, my eyebrows were up around my hairline, and my jaw was near the desk. “This is huge”, I said to myself. The first sentence in my notes is literally: ‘It’s hard to know where to start’ So, I’m going to…
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Time To Learn: < 1 minuteWe’re at the halfway point in our 10-Day Cool, Calm Communication Course If you’ve just joined us or you missed a few days, here are the topics with links to everything we’ve published so far and what to expect next: Day 1: This Is Why I’m Not Listening To YouDay 2: Disaster-Free CommunicationDay 3: How…
Time To Learn: 2 minutesOh, wow. It’s been a big week. All around the world, there have been announcements, warnings, sirens, marches, peace talks, war talks, markets moving, and social media meltdowns. And we experienced most of this with our eyes. Almost continuously from the moment we wake up. Our eyes are the entry point for so much of…
Time To Learn: < 1 minute“Yeah, good mate” Really? Cos, if you told me how you really feel, some pretty incredible things would happen. When you ‘label’ your emotions, the activity in your amygdala will diminish while the activity in your prefrontal cortex will increase. AKA: the panic part of your brain goes quiet, and the thinking part comes alive. AKA: you quickly feel…
Time To Learn: < 1 minuteHere’s how stress happens … Someone says something or does something that triggers a threat response from you. This triggers the amygdala inside your brain. Your amygdala causes the release of cortisol and adrenaline. Now your body is full of it. In the presence of these stress chemicals, your prefrontal cortex, which usually does your…
Time To Learn: < 1 minute“He drives me crazy!” This could actually be true. There’s a concept called physiological synchrony that describes how people with stressed partners have higher cortisol levels. Couples’ heart rates, skin conductance, and cortisol levels converge during emotional interactions. When one partner’s nervous system activates, the other follows automatically. Also, hostile relationships (critical, sarcastic, unpleasant) lead to slower…
Time To Learn: 3 minutes“You cannot be serious!” My face was red, my chest was tight. I was literally yelling at my computer screen. Here in Australia, we have just witnessed our government do something so dumb and so damaging that it feels like a combination of disrespect, neglect, and a little bit of corruption. Maybe a lot ……
Time To Learn: < 1 minuteHow they behave is up to you. “What?” Yeah. Because they’re copying you. In 21 milliseconds, our brains decide how we behave, and we base that on the other person’s behavior, starting with their facial expression. According to psychologist Elaine Hatfield. Faster than you can consciously think, your brain has already made up its mind about how you’ll behave…
Time To Learn: 2 minutesI really should have taken a breath. That would have stopped me. It’s all I needed to do. Instead, I’ve been dealing with the consequences of that horrible conversation for the last 12 months. Seriously. This is what happened … I called my Dad because I had a point to make. I launched at him…
