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June 1, 2026

Cool, Calm Communication

We're at the halfway point in our 10-Day Cool, Calm Communication Course If you've just joined us or you missed a few days, here are the topics with links to…

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May 29, 2026

Are You Even Listening?

I honestly thought our friendship was over. It had been weeks since we'd spoken, and only a year ago, it was uncommon for Dan and me to go a day…

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May 28, 2026

Your Body Language Gives You Away

Have you heard of John Gottman? If you've done any relationship work, you probably have. He's done more research into relationship communication than almost anyone alive. One of his best-known…

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May 27, 2026

How Do I Know What To Say?

Knowing and ready are not the same thing You may have read our previous post and thought ... "Yeah. That makes sense." It does. I mean, there's clearly a difference…

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May 26, 2026

Disaster-Free Communication

I'm sick of this! Talking to you is a complete waste of time! When was the last time you left a conversation feeling unheard, frustrated, and annoyed? For many people,…

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May 25, 2026

This Is Why I’m Not Listening To You

One minute you're talking, the next you're not. Well, not really. Your words are still coming out, but nobody's listening. The person you're talking to is still sitting in front…

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May 22, 2026

I Just Need 60 Seconds Of Peace

Oh, wow. It's been a big week. All around the world, there have been announcements, warnings, sirens, marches, peace talks, war talks, markets moving, and social media meltdowns. And we…

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May 21, 2026

How Ya Feeling?

"Yeah, good mate" Really? Cos, if you told me how you really feel, some pretty incredible things would happen. When you 'label' your emotions, the activity in your amygdala will diminish while…

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May 20, 2026

“Just Calm Down”

Here's how stress happens ... Someone says something or does something that triggers a threat response from you. This triggers the amygdala inside your brain. Your amygdala causes the release…

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May 19, 2026

Be The Calm That You Seek

"He drives me crazy!" This could actually be true. There's a concept called physiological synchrony that describes how people with stressed partners have higher cortisol levels. Couples' heart rates, skin conductance, and…

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