“What Are The Results, Wayne?”
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Cool, Calm Communication
Time To Learn: < 1 minuteWe’re at the halfway point in our 10-Day Cool, Calm Communication Course If you’ve just joined us or you missed a few days, here are the topics with links to everything we’ve published so far and what to expect next: Day 1: This Is Why I’m Not Listening To YouDay 2: Disaster-Free CommunicationDay 3: How…
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Are You Even Listening?
Time To Learn: 2 minutesI honestly thought our friendship was over. It had been weeks since we’d spoken, and only a year ago, it was uncommon for Dan and me to go a day without some form of contact. We’d traveled together, trained together, and kept each other company when we both moved states. Despite that, it looked like…
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Your Body Language Gives You Away
Time To Learn: 2 minutesHave you heard of John Gottman? If you’ve done any relationship work, you probably have. He’s done more research into relationship communication than almost anyone alive. One of his best-known pieces of research is when he brought couples into his lab and asked them to have a real disagreement. He would film them for fifteen…
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How Do I Know What To Say?
Time To Learn: 3 minutesKnowing and ready are not the same thing You may have read our previous post and thought … “Yeah. That makes sense.” It does. I mean, there’s clearly a difference in the outcome of a conversation when you use inflammatory phrases vs. phrases that don’t threaten the other person’s perceived safety. But … To know…
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Disaster-Free Communication
Time To Learn: 2 minutesI’m sick of this! Talking to you is a complete waste of time! When was the last time you left a conversation feeling unheard, frustrated, and annoyed? For many people, this is a frequent event. It happens at work, they bring it home, and they’re at war with most of their friends. And for those…
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This Is Why I’m Not Listening To You
Time To Learn: 2 minutesOne minute you’re talking, the next you’re not. Well, not really. Your words are still coming out, but nobody’s listening. The person you’re talking to is still sitting in front of you, but they’re miles away. And the harder you push to make your point, the further they seem to drift away from you. When…
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I Just Need 60 Seconds Of Peace
Time To Learn: 2 minutesOh, wow. It’s been a big week. All around the world, there have been announcements, warnings, sirens, marches, peace talks, war talks, markets moving, and social media meltdowns. And we experienced most of this with our eyes. Almost continuously from the moment we wake up. Our eyes are the entry point for so much of…
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How Ya Feeling?
Time To Learn: < 1 minute“Yeah, good mate” Really? Cos, if you told me how you really feel, some pretty incredible things would happen. When you ‘label’ your emotions, the activity in your amygdala will diminish while the activity in your prefrontal cortex will increase. AKA: the panic part of your brain goes quiet, and the thinking part comes alive. AKA: you quickly feel…
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“Just Calm Down”
Time To Learn: < 1 minuteHere’s how stress happens … Someone says something or does something that triggers a threat response from you. This triggers the amygdala inside your brain. Your amygdala causes the release of cortisol and adrenaline. Now your body is full of it. In the presence of these stress chemicals, your prefrontal cortex, which usually does your…